“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn’t it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life…You give them a piece of you. They didn’t ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn’t your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like ‘maybe we should be just friends’ turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It’s a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” – Neil Gaiman
I love this quote! I don’t need to explain what it means. I’m pretty sure anyone who reads it can understand it and have a certain feeling toward it. Mine is, it’s absolutely true. Sometimes, when you least expect it someone comes in your life and takes your breath away. Everything is wonderful, you start to dream about your future together and then suddenly..it’s all gone.
There are no more late night phone calls talking about the future, the person you used to cry to or laugh to isn’t here anymore and the dreams are crushed along with your heart. Being hurt by someone you love is the worst feeling. The healing process takes a while and it’s the hardest because you beat yourself up with what you could have done differently and you ask yourself ‘what happened’, ‘where did it all go wrong.’ But life keeps going and you have to catch up with it. In life there will be many times that you will get your heart-broken, you just have to keep running the marathon till you meet your soul mate in the finish line.
A song that will go perfectly with this post is, Brandy’s “Have You Ever.”